You may believe giving your home to your adult children is a generous move leading to happy memories. However, this isn’t always true. One story recounted in a recent article, “Inheriting a Home With Your Siblings? Here’s All That Can Go Wrong,” from Realtor.com, is an example of how badly this could go.

Three siblings were left their parent’s house when the second parent died. One sibling wanted to keep the house, while a second brother and a sister wanted to sell it and split the money. They had the property appraised, and the sibling who wanted the house bought out his sibling’s shares, paying them both a third of the house's current value. One brother blew his inheritance on a sports car, exotic vacations and an expensive nightlife. The sister bought a boat.

Fast-forward a few years, and real estate values skyrocketed. The brother who bought the house decided to sell it before moving away to be closer to his wife’s family. The house had tripled in value. His siblings now think he should share the profits he made, even though his siblings didn’t want the house. The rest of the family sides with the siblings, making matters harder for the brother.

Estate planning attorneys were asked for their opinions on the matter, and all agreed. He made the decision to buy the property when they didn’t want it, so he owned it free and clear. They aren’t entitled to share the profits. They certainly wouldn’t have shared the losses if the property value had gone down!

Other families fight about the contents of the house. This is why everyone needs an estate plan with a last will and testament clearly detailing how they want their estate, including personal possessions, to be distributed. Hoping the children “work things out” doesn’t end well for most families.

Some families like to have an estate sale company come in and sell the contents of the house and split the profits, while others flip a coin to see who gets what.

Another issue about personal possessions is items disappearing. Sometimes, aging parents decide to declutter without telling anyone. In other cases, a child or family member decides to take something without telling anyone.

How can you prevent your children from fighting over the house or its contents? Have a will made and discuss how to handle your unique situation with an estate planning attorney. Make sure the will includes clear directions as to whether or not the house should be sold or how the shares should be distributed. You could also add a provision stating that if one child buys the shares at fair market value, the transaction is final and the other siblings may not pursue any future gains after the sale.

Parents should never leave property to one child and expect the child to share the proceeds with any other siblings or family members. If property is left to one sibling, they have no legal requirement to share any portion of their inheritance. This happens more often than you’d think despite it being an easy situation to avoid.

As the example above illustrates, even buying out siblings’ shares can lead to problems. If the sibling buying out others' shares is also the executor or the trustee, the siblings and parents would be wise to meet with the estate planning attorney to clarify how this asset will be distributed and what their role will be. Executors who are also beneficiaries can find themselves at the centers of estate battles.

Families may think they don’t need to put things in writing. After all, they’re family. However, when it comes to inheritances, having everything in writing, property prepared by an experienced estate planning attorney and clearly understood by all, is the best you can do to prevent any estate battles among your loved ones.

Reference: Realtor.com (Sep. 14, 2024) “Inheriting a Home With Your Siblings? Here’s All That Can Go Wrong”